“For that matter, if Andy was half as interested in social justice/anti-rape activism as he claims to be, you might think he’d take action to get a statutory rapist/online groomer off the street and registered as a sex offender. But no, he “doesn’t fucking care” about that. In fact, he cares so little that he can’t even be bothered to confirm whether he might have that power or not. So either he’s KNOWINGLY lying, or he’s happy as a clam to let a supposed rapist walk free. Both are disgusting.”
Um, no, this is a disgusting thing to say and is yet one more example of how people let their emotions about Andy cloud their judgement as it relates to broader issues.
Many, MANY, MANY people who care about anti-rape activism and social justice issues do not “take action” to have THEIR OWN rapists put behind bars or charged. The reason is that they are already traumatised and the legal process is even more traumatising not to mention HIGHLY unlikely to result in their favour. Rapists and child-molestors literally walk away scot-free after trials their victims have persued at enormous personal cost by the dozens every single day because we live in a rape culture and the tendency is to blame the victim and/or disbelieve them.
As a consequence of this horrible process, many many victims choose not to take legal action and instead try to move on and rebuild their lives in other ways.
I don’t care about Andy. I don’t believe he is a victim. I DO care about the thousands of rape survivors around the world remarks like these summarily chuck under the bus because they chose to prioritise their own health and recovery and not submit themselves to the trauma of a trial. Saying victims who don’t persue charges are “happily” letting rapists walk free is truly disgusting and whoever said that should be ashamed and this blog should be ashamed at supporting it. I can only presume you cannot comprehend the experience and the associated social baggage or you would never presume such moral superiority over how victims choose to act in the aftermath.
Notes added by 1purp0se: You’re right, and I apologise for publishing it.
I understood the remark in the context of this conversation about Andy, but really, thinking about it now even in that context, it’s not an acceptable thing to say, or to publish, or to endorse. I’m sorry. I’ll be more careful in future. The ask is now deleted.
By the way, I published, then deleted this submission because it wouldn’t let me edit my comments and I wanted to. That’s why your name doesn’t show up. And thank you for bringing this to my attention.